Friday, February 22, 2013

Response to Connor Habib's : "Why Do Porn Stars Kill Themselves?"



Dear Connor, I’m a blogger and politico and often write about various
issues, I initially stayed away from this subject. While I find your
writing to be brilliant and well thought of, the question about the
suicide of porn performers is because it is a rather complicated issue
but most of the blame can be zeroed in on the entertainment industry as a
whole.
Let me explain.
From the moment we wake up in the morning to bedtime we are
constantly bombarded with images of thinner or gym body people selling
us everything from clothing, to cars, to food and reminding us that we
need to lose weight and be thinner as that is what the “image of beauty”
is supposed to be.
Assholes exist in life and certainly in employment as well, but in a
normal job there are severe consequences when an employer whether small
business or corporate mistreats his/her employees starting with getting
fired, getting sued, getting arrested and sent to prison. It is against
the law to treat people like shit at work.
The entertainment industry is full of and run by assholes like Simon
Cowell. Whether it be music, movies, shows, or porn they are the only
industry in the entire world where employer to employee abuse exists
without serious consequences against the perpetrators and exacerbated
100 times worse when the “product” that is being marketed are the
performers themselves captured on media performing especially when it is
sexual intercourse.
They are the only group that gets to belittle, degrade, condescend,
and outright verbally and even physically abuse the employees under them
without much fear of consequence. Ever heard of anorexia, body
dysmorphia, drug abuse, steroid abuse, criminal behavior? Those things
are commonplace and are the result of abuses. Considering the fact that
the average career in porn is 18 months (the length of an associate
degree in any college) the question becomes why do some performers stay
in longer? Is it the lure of the money? The attention? What? Its a good
question actually. Then there’s also the competition. There’s always
going to be someone younger, tighter ass, and better looking waiting to
take your place.
You should also consider yourself lucky that you are the exception but certainly not the norm.
Not every human being has thick skin, a will of iron, or the
emotional backbone of a rhinoceros that can handle criticism well. Look
at reality shows like American Idol at how many people get rejected and
their sometimes explosive negative reactions as a result of the
rejection.
Also, the entertainment industry is the only industry as far as I
know that gets to claim that the product they produce is “art” and is
“subject to interpretation” and yet they treat it as a business, so if
you hated it, you’re not satisfied and you want your money back : “tough
shit, you own it”. In other words, they get to have their cake and EAT
it too.”
I've met and have friends that have worked in the adult industry. None like talking about their experiences. That says something to me. Because of that, I see most of the blame directed at the porn and entertainment industry for helping to push these performers to the breaking point, but ultimately it is the performers' choice to either stay and continue to accept the abuse or to get out and do better with their lives elsewhere in another occupation.

-Joe V.

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